In life there are so many things, so many situations, so many decisions and choices that you can control. But at some point, we all have to realize that we can not control everything.
As a mom, there are so many things in our lives and our children’s lives that we are able to shape, but we can not control the decisions they make. We can not control the consequences of their actions. At some point we have to loosen our grip and let them leave the nest. Some will not be as ready as others and some may crash, but there will be some will soar. For those that are ready, it will be a beautiful, amazing, tear-shedding day. A day when you realize how amazing, how important and how glorious your job as a mother is. A day when you realize that all the tears, all the struggles, all the sleepless nights were worth it.
But what do you do as a parent of the child that crashes when leaving the nest? Do you pick them back up, brush them off and let them start over? Do you tell them they aren’t ready and make them stay? Or do you sit back with tears in your eyes, hoping that they will get up, brush themselves off and set off on their own again?
There are days that you may wonder if you could’ve done something different to change the results. There are days that you may feel like giving up. Days that you will feel like you failed as a parent, days you will have to decide if the time has come for you to pick up the pieces. The hardest decision you will have to make will be to just let it be.
The truth is that we can’t control what our children do. We can’t control the decisions that our children make. But the choices they make, the path they take is theirs. It may not be the easy road, there may be bumps and pot holes, but it is THEIR road. As parents we can only stand by and hope that their path will get them to where they are happy, healthy and thriving. As parents we can only hope that with every fall, with every little set back; they will learn, they will grow, and they will be strong.
Stay strong mommas, the hard days will come, but the good always outweigh the bad. Remind your children that no matter what you love them and are there for them. They need to be reassured, they need to know they are still loved, and they need to hear it from you often.